Do you know that being mere can hurt a couple’s s*x life? As simple as being over excited may look or appear, when married couples are not very mindful of this act, they are unknowingly destroying their s*x bed.
I am sure many may think this is not so. But do you know that sometimes, when men are overexcited about having s*x, they totally forget about the needs of their wives. And what happens is that, during s*x, the husband clumsily squeezes the wife’s breast.
The point is that during intercourse, the wife is not warmed up and therefore does not enjoy s*x as much as the husband.
This action hurts couple’s s*x life and before you know it, the unsatisfied partner is either not showing interest any more or looking for s*x elsewhere.
So, husbands, go down on your wife like you mean it! If you want her to enjoy s*x, then you need to enjoy performing oral s*x on her.
Just like nothing is scxier to many husbands than wives giving them a blow job, nothing is scxier to many wives than a husband who enjoys giving oral pleasure. Documentation shows that only about 25 to 30 per cent of married women orgasm or reach climax through s*x and most of these women need and likely want clitoral stimulation in addition to s*x.
I tell men that when you are through, still go down on your wife. You will be surprised to see another side of her, try it tonight. When you roll over after s*x and tell her, ‘sorry dear, it’s just too hot, or I am so tired from office work, or don’t worry, next time I will make out time, then you keep a foot of distance between you and her.
Maybe you chat with her a bit before falling asleep. She is noticeable annoyed and it will backfire sooner or later.
Even if you are not someone who likes to touch after s*x, you just must learn how to. You can start off small and make some kind of physical contact a normal part of your after-scx routine.
Scratch her back for a little while and lay a little closer than normal. Once you have scratched her back for a while, move to a closer touch. Cuddling after scx will bring the two of you closer together.
One of the most successful marriage relationships has been linked to bonds created after scx and cuddling.
According to research, the way you approach your partner after scx is really important to how you approach your relationship in general. When you and your wife barely experience spark after sex, it could hurt your s*x life.
Another thing that can hurt couple’s scx life is when they fail to identify their own specific style of s*xual satisfaction.
Please note that not every style, every fantasy, every erotic manual works for every couple. Each couple must recognise and enhance what works best for their scx life.
Failure to do this will either put your partner in a state of pretence, compromising, tricks, fabrications and lies or loss of interest in scx.
Many married couples are under the false mirage that every other couple seem to be climaxing and having orgasms all the time from whatever type of s*x they’re having.
Well, when you are fed with such diet by watching p!o.rn stars and when your real life doesn’t match, you think maybe something is wrong with you or your spouse.
Real-life s*x can almost never measure up to the passion portrayed on the screen, such people don’t talk about the fact that it’s likely that in an odd position, you’ll pass gas or the love of your life will take you in his arms and have bad breath.
S*x in the real world isn’t perfect and it doesn’t always end with an earth-shattering climax. But it doesn’t have to end up with a graveyard experience either.
Good scx doesn’t necessarily have to be about an orgasm. It can just be an emotionally fulfilling experience between committed couple, who have discovered their unique style and taste, and are most comfortable with such.
Couples also need to understand that even when everything else in the relationship is working, s*xual styles aren’t always compatible. Most wives like long foreplay sessions. Most husbands are ready to go in an instant. Some partners long for wet, sensual kisses. While others prefer dry, chaste pecks.
S*x may not just be naturally perfect. There is the energy of a new relationship of the couple or distance spouse that everything about such scx is very passionate and highly erotic; talk about the excitement, the eagerness but it has its negative side which is that most times, spouses bump noses or knees or you are just very clumsy about some stuff because you just haven’t learned how to dance together yet.
But even long-term couples can struggle in the bedroom also. Though we can easily tell our partner what underwear we’d like him or her to wear, or what we’d like to cook together for dinner, but these same long time couples tend to get tongue-tied when it comes to the topic of scx and maybe some new ideas. Couples sometimes tend to be very sensitive when it comes to talking about scx.
They’re afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings, so they don’t tell them what they like or don’t like. But you’re not going to get it unless you ask for it.
Is it normal to rub her feet and not her back?
My wife’s way of really having the best of foreplay and scx must include massaging her feet. If I want to get the best of scx from my wife, she will always suggest I rub her feet alongside rubbing other parts of her body.
Even when I have done justice to her bre!asts, n!pples and c.litoris, I must caress her feet. This worries me a bit, is it okay? Or are there spiritual implications to this action? Because the way it goes is that as soon as I begin rubbing her feet, she will be rubbing my head. I am beginning to wonder if she is not using this scene for juju. Please help me.
Well, Mr. Jalade, we are in times and age when couples are constantly being exposed to all forms of s*xual awareness. The singular reason your wife will always advocate you rubbing her feet more and also including it in your foreplay is simply because there are thousands of nerve endings in the human sole that stimulate the entire nervous system.
What I perceive here is that maybe along your time of foreplay, she has discovered that this simple act helps her to either be in the mood or stimulate her or help her to get into orgasm fast, hence she always requests for it.
I do not think it has anything to do with juju or spiritual connotation. Her rubbing your head in return shows she is not only enjoying it, she is fully participating. And also for your information, that is a romantic way women appreciate their husbands.
They rub the head more than any other part of the body. What I would suggest is get good lubricant and smear your hands with it.
After softening your hands with massage oil, massage each foot, then slowly move up to calves. Massaging her muscles is also important if you desire to get her in the mood. Using the heels of your palms, apply pressure on her muscles.
Ensure you roll your fingers back and forth while you move your hands up and down her muscles. Do not forget to pay attention to the top part of each muscles where it meets the bone, then go upwards to her tummy and br.e.ast and n!pples. She will keep screaming for more.
Is this right?
I have been dating this guy for over seven years and he keeps on promising marriage and pleading with me to wait. My fear is that from all indications, he is not just ready for marriage because all the reasons he gave for delays have been sorted out, yet nothing is around the corner.
On three different occasions, we chose date for the court wedding and on those occasions, he forgot outright. Do you think I should keep waiting?
Lady Queen Asofon
No!! Read in between the lines. Ideally speaking, courtship or dating is an avenue for two people who fancy each other and want to eventually end up married, to come together and see how compatible they are before they take the final step.
But that isn’t always the case. Sometimes, you find that some men hide under the pretext of courtship to deceive and exploit unsuspecting innocent women.
They see a good woman, promise her heaven, string her along for years, and then, eventually dump her when they are actually ready to get married; leaving the woman stranded, heartbroken and dejected.
So, I feel that prolonged dating or courtship is overrated, and should be avoided by women who actually have plans of getting married.
I said this because from experience, I know that most men know where you fit in their life plans from the first time they see you.
The first impression always matters; this is no lie. When you meet someone for the first time, you almost certainly leave that meeting with an impression of them, so most men have an idea of the type of woman you are (good or bad, slutty or decent) and whether or not you’ll fit into their future marriage plans from the first time they spend time with you.
Of course, the first time wouldn’t be enough for him to understand your whole person, but it’ll be enough for him to make an assessment of you. When you meet a decent person, you know in an instant, so when some men say they want to court a woman for as long as seven years or more so they ‘know her very well’, I think it’s quite ridiculous, and nothing but an excuse to continue to string her along and use her as a free s*x giver.
Except there is no s*xual involvement and there are genuine reasons for the delay, no man needs to be with you for many years before he can tell whether or not you’re his kind of woman.
The truth of the matter is, some men don’t want marriage, they want s*x. More than half the population of men who get into a relationship do it solely for the s*x, and not marriage or companionship as they tend to make most women believe.
They know that some women are vulnerable and desire those things, they lie and give them the impression that they actually plan to get married to them in the near future, thus tying them down and stringing them along for as long as they find them s*xually valuable.
This is how most women have missed out on opportunities that could have led to something more real with genuine men.
Even when he says it’s because he wants to know you better, several years of dating is no guarantee you’ll really understand yourselves. The major purpose of dating and courtship is to learn and understand the type of person you plan on spending the rest of your life with.
But then, you cannot dispute the fact that you may not be able to achieve that purpose successfully even if given 10 years, and the reason is simple; some people are very good at pretence.
Some can hide their true personality away from you until after marriage, so you wouldn’t be able to tell what their flaws and inadequacies are during your dating period. So, the success of a marriage is not a product of how long you date each other.
Finally, I want to state categorically that successful marriages aren’t built on prolonged courtship or dating. It is instead a product of true love and how mentally mature both parties are for the experience called marriage.
A man and woman who love each other very well, and know the importance of sacrifice in preserving a relationship do not need to court for years before they get married, because those are not values you learn together with another person, but by yourself.
Marriage is about learning to love the imperfections of the person you feel strongly drawn to. It goes beyond s*x or making children; it goes beyond hanging out. It is about friendship and companionship; so, ladies do not allow any man to turn you into a s*x toy that he’ll eventually dispose off when he gets tired.
Be wary of men who want to keep you in a relationship for very long without showing any evident signs of changing because some of them have different interest from yours.