And while we’re on the subject of boundaries, let me just say that if you want your relationship to last, you need them.
Think of them as operating instructions for your partner to follow. They’re loving guides that let others know how you want to be treated.
You need to be able to say “no” and to draw the line about certain behaviors that make you uncomfortable or unhappy. You need to be able to ask for your needs to be met. You need to be able to carve out time for self-care.
If you can do these things, you will take tons of stress off of your partner’s shoulders that they didn’t even know they were carrying. Trust me.
4. Being Inseparable
If you want your relationship to last, you have to stop spending all of your time together. A relationship is healthiest when it’s made of two healthy individuals, and healthy individuals spend solo time with their families and friends, pursue their own interests, and spend some time alone.
If you’re used to being together all the time, it will seem hard and weird at first. But trust me, it will add a level of happiness and fulfillment to your lives and your relationships that you didn’t even realize you were missing. Make some friends. Get a hobby. This is so important.
5. Playing The Victim